Excerpts from He Remembers the Barren, Second Edition

“That discomfort everyone feels, that uneasy swirling in the pit of our stomachs whenever we see a woman crying over her childlessness, is the shadow of her cross. Its darkness falls across our face whenever we look at her, stand next to her, or hear details about her loss. Which of us can’t help but shiver in the gloom? We are tempted to turn away and step back into the light, to turn our back on the bitter cold. We may want to say something, to weave a covering of false promises that will hide her suffering from our sight. We may want to construct a wall of words that will shield her affliction from our eyes. But we love her, so we don’t. Instead, we stand silent and still. We study her and take full notice of her lonely burden. We acknowledge the awkwardness, the discomfort, and the pain with a wordless nod. Then we take a deep breath and lean into the cold, inhabiting her wretched space and letting ourselves be uncomfortable, pushing our own shoulder under her cross to bear its weight for a spell.”

“Sisters, we can waste such precious time in this life staring into a mirror. We can study our flesh until we have our faults and flaws memorized, but we end up learning nothing and going nowhere. Instead, we wander aimlessly down a long, winding path of navel-gazing where even the best and strongest of navigators can get lost. When you spend the whole of your journey looking at yourself, you miss the road signs that clearly mark your way. Are you a baptized child of God? Then you have put on Christ, and your Savior is perfect and holy for you. When God looks at you, He sees the redemptive work of His Son, and there lies your worth. We must pull our gaze from ourselves and look to the cross. In Christ’s suffering and glory, we will find the answers, though the questions we ask will be different.”

“Scripture plainly tells us that God creates and sustains all living things. We may attempt to understand and manipulate fertility science in an effort to achieve reproduction, but our own actions never alter the fact that we, as part of God’s creation, are simply instruments in His act of procreation. Children are a heritage from the Lord—a gift from Him—and that good gift is received, not manufactured or made. In His wisdom and in His time, God makes mothers of women. He has the hairs on our heads numbered, not to mention the eggs in our ovaries. Nothing happens in our lives apart from our gracious and loving heavenly Father, and every full and empty womb is intended for our good: ‘And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.’ Blessed be the name of the Lord.”

“Perhaps the matter would be clearer if we hadn’t abandoned the use of gift language in the body of Christ. Rarely do we talk about children as God defines them in the Bible, using His words of ‘gift, heritage, fruit, blessing, reward.’ Instead, we refer to children as the world does, adopting cultural phrases like ‘birth control, family planning, baby machine, reproduction, fertility science.’ By our language alone, we suggest to each other that children are a commodity to be planned for and controlled. This control language is a waste of breath in the church because it isn’t true. It isn’t God’s language. It doesn’t come from His Word. It is something we humans have made up in an attempt to explain and define and harness that which remains mysterious and untamed, and control language falls short every time.”

-excerpts from Katie Schuermann’s He Remembers the Barren: Second Edition

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